Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.
We’ve all experienced situations in which we become frustrated. Rather than being able to maintain a calm, centered, and relaxed state of inner confidence, we feel the intense bristle of emotion and tension and helpless to do anything about it.
Frustration happens when we believe we need something and we can’t seem to find a way to fulfill that need. We want things to run smoothly, and when we can’t seem to achieve what we want in a particular situation frustration happens. In other words, we don’t get what we want. Frustration is also a common emotional response to opposition.
Examples of frustration in everyday life are numerous. It can happen when you are sitting in traffic, when you can’t stop your newborn baby from crying, or when you’re trying to achieve a goal and you feel that you are blocked from reaching a successful outcome. It’s the feeling you get when your car doesn’t start and you’re late for work, or when your puppy won’t stop barking and you want to sleep.
What is important is having self-empowering ways to handle our frustration. One thing you can do is simply ask yourself:
What you are feeling frustrated about?
Another way is just to take a time out. Go outside for a few minutes. Take a short walk. Go get a cup of coffee. Go outside and look up at the sky.
Once you’ve taken some steps to breathe, relax, and settle down, start creating a new belief that you can handle this situation in better ways.
Because let’s face it, most of the problems you get frustrated with will not be of major consequence in the long run. Try getting a little perspective by thinking about how the problem looks when you view it from a few weeks from now, a year, ten years or your lifetime?
Above all, don’t let your frustrations prevent you from setting goals and living your life to the maximum.
I have had frustrations about things like my job, my relationships, and my financial stability. It made me feel like I was really struggling and not getting much out of life.
Then I tried a new approach, an approach that I think you’ll find very useful too.
I decided to remember what I have got in my life rather than worry about what I didn’t have.
In other words, I became grateful.
I started listing everything that I was grateful for in my life and why I was grateful for them.
Things like my close family and friends, having the opportunity to be fit and healthy, being able to run, and having the freedom to do whatever I want in life. Things that are so easy to take for granted.
This helped me to think with a more positive mindset rather than a negative one. I started to appreciate that maybe my life wasn’t that bad after all. In fact I realised that my life was pretty good and that I should be grateful for the life I have.
Yes I still wanted those things in my life that seemed so far away, and I still do, but now the frustration had disappeared.
Remember worry and frustration won’t help you towards your goals and they won’t make the things that you want to happen any quicker. Because every thought of frustration is like purchasing a ticket for more frustration. Every thought that agrees that your stuck is asking the Universe to send you even more of that glue to keep you stuck.
All the things that you want will come with time if you stick at it and keep improving various aspects of your life. It’s only a matter of time before you experience the results.
In the meantime remember what you have got in your life and enjoy the journey and experiences along the way!
So, I end this post by asking you:
Are you frustrated?
If you are, get busy living to change that!