How many times do we get frustrated over something that has gone wrong, even if just a little? We end up agitated and upset, and our day is ruined. We dwell in the inadequacies and beat ourselves up over them. However, these shortfalls are not worth sweating for; rather we need to take a step back, allow some distance, and look at the big picture.
Many times, things don’t seem to go according to plan – perhaps the proposal arrived a day late at client’s doorsteps, or we weren’t able to run the full 30 minutes at the gym as we planned?
We get annoyed at ourselves. We zoom in on the small things gone wrong and become angry and disappointed – and we cannot fully focus on the next course of actions we were supposed to take.
In the end, we mess up the whole project, or give up, because of that one little hiccup. Or perhaps we have to start all over again, yet already we feel deflated. We wanted everything to be perfect and went to meticulous lengths to so ensure, and now it’s all crumbled down.
So what do we do?
The secret is to Relax – Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff.
There is no need to obsess about it. Have the big picture in your mind and trust in yourself. Life is not perfect. We are not perfect. So eventually, something will go wrong or not as planned. Once we accept this truth, we can stop pressuring ourselves to perfection and cause ourselves anxiety.
Moreover, a “mess up” is only one if we define it as such. Rather, the same incident could simple be an experience through which we learn to do things a different way the next time.
But, does that really matter in the big picture? Ask yourself that before you go into a frenzy because of one small hiccup.
Perhaps the traffic jam and the detour you had to take today, led you to discover a new bakery shop, even if you had to arrive hope a bit later than expected.
In fact, it could end up better! So allow for messes, and let it take you on its course. Allow yourself to live in the moment, and be grateful for that!
Just remember these Rules:
Rule 1. Relax – Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
Rule 2: In the big scheme of things – It’s ALL small stuff.